Middle school is hard. It’s a time when young people are trying to figure out their friendships, their emotions and who they want to be. For some students at Spry Community School in Little Village, the challenges outside of school are even greater. With so much on their plates, things like character development and building healthy relationships are often far from their minds.
But Henry and Alex, two 8th graders at Spry, aren’t letting life’s hardships stand in their way of becoming strong leaders.
Both soft-spoken and shy on the surface, these boys are quick to stand up for others. Described by their teacher as “upstanders,” Alex and Henry are in tune with how their classmates are feeling. “Alex is good at bridge building and helping students handle conflicts,” said Ms. Nelson, explaining that he is often the first to step in and diffuse a tense situation. “Henry is good at noticing who is being left out or alone and including them,” she added.
While these traits are likely due to a natural intuition, these young men had some help putting the language to their feelings and those of their peers.
Spry is one of 51 schools across the Chicago region using the Character Playbook curriculum, a program designed to help cultivate and maintain healthy relationships during students’ most critical school years. And both the teachers and students have seen the difference.
“The program helped me understand best my feelings, or emotions or how I react to certain things,” said Alex, “One thing I learned is how like, body science – how you can tell when someone’s upset or how they’re feeling, so I try to help them out by talking to them.”
“With the Playbook I learned what other feelings of the other person are like,” added Henry. “I think it will help me later on to know even if I don’t know people and they’re going through something, I can just stand up because I know how they’re gonna be feeling if they’re going through something hard.
Using a graphic novel format, the Character Playbook online course walks students through a series of interactive exercises that help them to better understand their own values and how they can relate to others. These online modules are paired with offline curriculum that helps the students put what they’ve learned into practice. For the 8th graders of Spry, it culminated in a visit to Soldier Field and an opportunity to meet the Chicago Bears.
When the students arrived at Soldier Field, they were greeted outside of the Bears locker room by Chris Draft, Jerry Azumah, James ‘Big Cat’ Williams and Rashied Davis, four Chicago Bears alumni. Each student was given a high five, a handshake and a hug – individually recognizing them and letting them know that they were welcomed. Once everyone settled in their seats, Chris Draft opened the conversation by asking the students to share their names, what makes them uniquely special and what they want to be when they grow up.
As the students shared, often calling out the special qualities in one another, the players also opened up about their personal stories and adversities they’ve faced. Many of the students shared big dreams for their future, ones that may seem impossible to some people. The players encouraged them to seek wisdom and advice, and to develop the strength of character to face those challenges. “Adversity is gonna happen,” said Jerry Azumah, “it’s going to test your character of who you are as a person. You have to dig deep and find out exactly who you are and what you can accomplish.”
“This is just another way that we can get down deep into our kids’ lives, and especially into our middle school kids, and really talk to them about making choices at a time in their lives when there are a lot of things going on,” Chris Draft said.
Alex and Henry agree they’ll carry these lessons into the future.
“[I’ve learned] how to see things, like other point of views,” said Alex, “Or how to control yourself, your emotions and how to use them in certain situations or how to react to things.”
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